tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post7638332793381874225..comments2023-11-02T05:29:57.954-04:00Comments on From the Heart: We’re Teaching Failure by Linda S. GlazAndy Scheer, Hartline Literaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09010440105558099014noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-2100686716827214702015-06-09T09:21:34.639-04:002015-06-09T09:21:34.639-04:00You captured it, Delores. There is a way to say th...You captured it, Delores. There is a way to say things. I entered a contest once and was told everything except "Don't quit the day job." She minced no words and simply ripped the entry apart. Thank goodness I have skin tough as a rhino.<br />Linda Glazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04374683352435771715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-49519702189211482382015-06-09T01:07:35.363-04:002015-06-09T01:07:35.363-04:00We can be honest without being cruel if we keep bo...We can be honest without being cruel if we keep both grace and truth in action. Otherwise I think we are the failures and it will someday come back to bite us.Delores Liesnerhttp://deloresliesner.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-70383499303772712092015-06-08T17:26:43.418-04:002015-06-08T17:26:43.418-04:00It depends on what the goals are. If a child is le...It depends on what the goals are. If a child is learning to kick a ball without falling down, no need to score. As their coordination gets better then the competition and the goals (ha ha) change.<br />For a writer, if they just want to write for fun or family, pop may not be a big deal. But to write for publication and sales, then all the tools and rules should be heeded.<br />The previous example got published. That might have been her goal. Then congratulations.Tim Suddethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01863100879171503856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-22884595818503015892015-06-08T15:54:22.919-04:002015-06-08T15:54:22.919-04:00Terri and Cindy spot on. Both with how we deal wit...Terri and Cindy spot on. Both with how we deal with other authors as well as sports. We can't fail people, they will learn nothing if we do that.Linda Glazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04374683352435771715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-58260613768264373622015-06-08T12:13:47.337-04:002015-06-08T12:13:47.337-04:00Excellent! I applaud your honesty. We all have to ...Excellent! I applaud your honesty. We all have to learn the skill of giving honest critiques and still leave the writer feeling good about himself. And as writers we need to develope tough skin so we will truly get better at the craft when someone really takes the time to help us. <br />I agree trophies for participation are lame. A certificate of participation is fine. They see the trophy and want to work toward that goal. It goes back to my first comment. Coaches need to encourage players to do their best. Praise their best, point out their weaknesses and help them through disappointing losses. Paticipation certificates should stop after the age of 10. By then they really have figured out who are the best and what they need to do to be one.<br />Cindy HuffAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-14647861875010751432015-06-08T10:58:40.215-04:002015-06-08T10:58:40.215-04:00PS and I'm a mom who doesn't believe in aw...PS and I'm a mom who doesn't believe in awards for everyone. Learn to fail. You only get better.Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-58617357264757554402015-06-08T10:57:25.279-04:002015-06-08T10:57:25.279-04:00I recently critiqued a writer and shared that she ...I recently critiqued a writer and shared that she needed to learn POV. She had been published by a very small publisher. It was awful. I was nice but never heard back from her. I make an effort to share with other writers what I've been told about my writing. I appreciate the truth. Who wouldn't? How do we improve?Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-10632519340476838922015-06-08T09:08:38.413-04:002015-06-08T09:08:38.413-04:00And we also have to remember that with brutal hone...And we also have to remember that with brutal honesty comes the responsibility to remove the brutal and replace with gentle words. Say the same thing without annihilating the other person. We can be a "brutal" without the brutality. I think you get my drift, but we don't do them any favors to tell folks how wonderful it is when we have to force ourselves to finish the read. And sometimes it's just a matter of not caring for a certain genre. Be honest about that and don't crit it or review it.Linda Glazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04374683352435771715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2443765296489868573.post-13899749209835099692015-06-08T08:36:17.432-04:002015-06-08T08:36:17.432-04:00Linda, I can so relate to what you're saying a...Linda, I can so relate to what you're saying about critiques I received years ago: they were so nice and encouraging. What a shame, I say now in hindsight. Elaine Stockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16349776598113016833noreply@blogger.com